Ugh, the one thing we all dread is being caught out on a dating app by past baggage, previous rejects and your mates who don't know your out here searching (I am speaking on behalf of everyone).
To be honest any type of dating used to make me cringe, let alone on the internet... But it's a necessity when it comes to cuffing season or you genuinely want to find "The One" eek.
Last year during Quarantine 0.1 I went on some kind of rampage and downloaded quite a few of these God forsaken apps!
Tinder, Bumble, Badoo and Hinge...
I even invested my time into one of those astrology ones thinking I could meet someone in my element (which has been done twice FYI) and it would be an out of this world experience!
To be honest, I really wanted to just have a good conversation with a dude, someone outside of my family & friends and also I was extremely bored out of my mind!
After being dragged out by people I had rejected in a past and previous life, I realised most of us was on here for the same thing... A companion and a chat.
It was said that in 2020 dating apps had reached its highest number of interactions EVER and was becoming the new thing to do!
Speaking to someone you've never met before online and forming some sort of relationship with them was becoming the new norm and that's positive right? It was no longer creepy and frowned up on as the digital age had officially made its mark.
Even my sister and her husband wanted to try it out for "bants"...
You ask me if there were weirdo's? Of course there was! But think about it, you can meet someone in the flesh and later down the line you'll find out they like to eat toenails as snacks...
So to end your nerves, here's my official breakdown of why I think online dating isn't as bad as its reputation:
You can officially tell if someone is self absorbed - The more mirror pics and the conversations you have about them are all the red flags you could possibly need to know you'll be in this relationship BY YOUR DAMN SELF.
Give them the B A N D - If you come across a (insert word), you can just give 'em thee old block and delete like those nostalgic days of MSN messenger... Ever so satisfying.
What's the bio saying? - Is the profile popping? As you can get a rough idea of a person's personality just through a personal portfolio. Sounds shallow, I know... But no one wants dry-ass conversations, it's technically an interview guys!
Communication is key - The ultimate exposure you need if you have a problem with ' The long-ting text crew' or on the other hand, they unfortunately might not be that into you. But my friends there could still be hope! There is a chance they might just need a break from the app (I was often that person).
Catch a fish - If anyone asks you for money, has grainy pictures, has only one profile picture and your trying to add up the facts and it was 4+4= 15 issa' catfish darling! Plus nowadays you can view their Instagram or slyly pree their Facebook ha-ha.
Suggestions - Is there a hint or just straight talking of meeting up? He/she could be shy or cautious, so maybe you could ask, but after a while it's definitely necessary to make these plans depending on how long you was speaking for. If they don't seem keen, don't waste your time. But also it is important they don't ask you to go out after 2 sentences, that's not serious, don't get caught out!
After installing and re-installing the app about 5 times (Hinge to be precise), I was able to go on a few dates once lockdown was "over" and live la vida loca.
The events were... Rememberable to say the least.
One of my dates put his hand right through my hair, which you don't do to a woman of colour.
I think he forgot it was still corona season and I was very awkward after that... We never spoke again.
Another guy blew his nose into a tissue and casually chucked it on the table we was still sitting and consuming our drinks at. I thought I was about to convulse with disgust and I couldn't hide my un-impressed facial expressions.
But in the end of all that drama and anxiety, I finally met someone who didn't make me uncomfortable or disgusted who I still talk to to this day!
Sometimes just let it be...
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